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Contents: enough! A Buddhist Approach to Finding Release from Addictive Patterns |
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List of Meditations |
viii |
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Acknowledgments |
ix |
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Introduction |
1 |
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Why Bother? |
3 |
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I've Tried Before, But I Fall Back |
4 |
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What is Addiction? |
4 |
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The Definition |
9 |
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So What Can We Do? |
9 |
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Why Equanimity |
10 |
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Learning to Control Compulsions |
11 |
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Addictions and Drug Dependencies |
12 |
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A Balanced Plan for Undermining and Removing Addictions |
13 |
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How We Can Change the Compulsive Mind: |
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Habits and Meditation |
19 |
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Finding Inspiration to Change |
20 |
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Habits and Change |
23 |
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Motivation, Repetition, and Reward |
24 |
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Mindfulness, Introspection, and Equanimity |
25 |
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Some Practical Guidelines for Meditation |
28 |
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What Can Be Done Right Now? |
35 |
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Emergency Actions: Fleeing or Freezing |
36 |
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Breathing and Relaxing Exercises |
37 |
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Mental Spa Baths |
40 |
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Moving Ahead |
41 |
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Freedom from Acting Compulsively: |
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Working with the Mind |
43 |
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What Is the Mind? |
44 |
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More on Equanimity |
45 |
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Developing Awareness and Equanimity Through Meditation |
47 |
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Myths and Realities about Happiness and Pleasure |
58 |
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Finding Triggers and Choosing to Change |
61 |
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How Does Something Come to Be a Trigger? |
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Emotions and Habits |
62 |
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Freedom to Choose |
68 |
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Exaggeration and Pain |
71 |
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Exaggeration, Denial, and Pain |
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Loaded Emotions and Exaggerations |
74 |
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Emotions and Desires |
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Confidence Comes from Having a Little Wisdom: |
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Separating Good Feedback from Bad |
82 |
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Making Choices and Managing Pain |
85 |
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Freedom from Pain and the Fear of Pain |
86 |
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Accept Pain or get Relief? |
89 |
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Moving Towards Pain |
95 |
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Making Choices and Building Self-Confidence |
99 |
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Cleaning Out Rubbish: Forgiveness |
105 |
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Forgiving and Being Forgiven: The Story of Carri |
106 |
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Forgiving Ourselves |
111 |
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Panning for Gold |
115 |
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Our Addiction is Part of the Solution |
122 |
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What is the Point in Saying "Enough!"? |
125 |
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Freedom from the Isolation of an Addiction: |
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Tools for Reconnecting |
126 |
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Values and Happiness: |
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The Sixteen Guidelines for a Happy Life |
129 |
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Tools for How We Think: |
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Humility, Patience, Contentment, Delight |
130 |
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Tools for How We Act: |
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Kindness, Honesty, Generosity, Right Speech |
132 |
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Tools for How We Relate to Others: |
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Respect, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Loyalty |
136 |
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Tools for Finding Meaning: |
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Principles, Aspiration, Service, Courage |
143 |
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Freedom to be Happy |
148 |
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Looking Ahead: Wisdom, Compassion, and Happiness |
153 |
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How to Develop Wisdom-Love: Introducing Bodhichitta |
154 |
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Putting It All Together |
162 |
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Wisdom |
163 |
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Wise Compassion |
165 |
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Lasting Happiness |
166 |
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Appendices |
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Appendix 1: Explanation for Professionals |
167 |
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Appendix 2: The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous |
171 |
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Appendix 3: The Buddhist Eightfold Noble Path as Described in Workshops on Addiction |
172 |
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Appendix 4: Some Useful Websites |
174 |
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Notes |
175 |
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Bibliography |
177 |
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Index |
180 |